If you suffer a physical injury, would you wait weeks or even years before seeing a doctor? Probably not, because you know that a doctor can assess what’s wrong and treat it before things gets worse! Unfortunately, most couples don’t think of emotional injuries in the same way. The average couple waits six years before seeking help, and by that point it … More The stigma of couples therapy: Gottman Marriage Minute
Our goal as parents is to raise emotionally healthy and well adapted adults. Enhancing the quality of parent-child relationships, beginning with bonding through each developmental milestone provides learning tools that allow our parenting goals to flourish. Mindfulness in parenting reminds us to slow down and observe, while reminding us to be flexible in our response. … More The Hardest Job – Parenting
Free anxiety and depression screenings, contact me via my website contact information and let me know your email to receive your free screening tool (specify which screening you are interested in). Don’t allow anxiety or depression hold you hostage from living y our life! Transformational coaching removes the pathological or pathogenic aspects that the … More New Year – New You!
It’s important to take your partner’s side when they’re upset about something outside the relationship. This means being supportive even if you think they’re being unreasonable. The point isn’t to be dishonest or enabling. It’s to empathize with their feelings. You can give advice later, if they want, when they’re ready to hear it. For example, if your partner’s boss chews them … More Take your partner's side: Gottman Institute
Work stress Work stress has become an increasing factor in marital dissatisfaction. The days of “Honey, I’m home!” are gone for many families. Most likely “Honey” is working, too, and has an inbox full of emails to respond to. Your task is to make your marriage a place of peace. Acknowledge that at the end of a long, stressful … More The Marriage Minute ~ Gottman Institute
How was your day, dear? Learning to cope with pressures and tensions outside your relationship is crucial to the long-term health of your marriage, according to research by Neil Jacobson. The most effective way to do this is to reunite at the end of the day and talk about how it went. We call this the … More The Marriage Minute ~ Gottman Institute
The truth about expectations If you lower your expectations, the argument goes, then you won’t be disappointed. This is a myth. Researcher Dr. Donald Baucom at the University of North Carolina found that people with greatest expectations for their marriage have the highest quality relationships. This suggests that by having high standards, you are far more likely … More The Marriage Minute ~ Gottman Institute